Technically IN-LAW means "Relative by marriage", but what does it mean or should it mean?
As an IN-LAW, how do you want to be treated?
Do you treat your IN-LAWS differently than your blood family?
I'm asking this question because after 5 years of marriage, I still don't feel like my DIL and I are in a good place. I'm not the only family member to feel this way but I'll refer to myself (I) in this post because it's coming from me.
I am not saying that this feeling is entirely caused by her (what she says/does, etc), I'm certain that I'm also a contributor.
What I do know is that I want this to stop, it's creepy and uncomfortable, and the situation will only grow in intensity over the years. I always wanted my son's wife, my DIL to just be my daughter (as I will someday want from my daughter's husband).
As a MIL, I want to be treated like she would treat her own Mother. I don't want to be called by my first name, I grew up during a time when this would be considered disrespectful. I could never, not ever, consider calling my IN-LAWS by their first names. Even my husband's Aunts & Uncles, I call by their title of Aunt or Uncle. Is this old fashioned, do you call your IN-LAWS by their first names?
Because so many of you are young women (cough-cough), I'd love to hear what you have to say on the subject matter of IN-LAWS. I wouldn't mind hearing from the rest of my aging beauty buddies either.