I started wondering when my son decided to get married 5 years ago, where my place would be in his life, now I'm even more puzzled with him becoming a Dad himself. He is 30 and he and his family live 3 hours away in Houston.
And then there's my daughter, she lives in the same city as we do but she is 29 and hugely independent, has always been that way except when she and boyfriends she'd felt strongly for broke up, we don't see her much and I feel so distanced from her.
What should we expect from our grown children? What can we reasonably hope for?
Please don't read into this that I'm a clinging vine Mother cause that isn't so. Yes, I love my children, I love them fiercely but they were raised to be strong and independent. I don't want them to be dependent on me or their Dad, I want them to depend on themselves BUT I also don't want to loose them.
Is life one big circle of repeats?
Does life really follow Cat Steven's song, "The Cats in the Cradle"?
Sunday, May 25, 2008
What's my place in the pecking order?
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My youngest is 19 and moved out from home about 6 weeks ago...and I, too, feel very distanced from her even though she only lives 5 miles away.
The oldest, at 21, has lived away from home for 3 years and just moved back in with us (along with her 4 y/o son, the grandboy) in order to finish nursing school.
I dunno. You've touched on something that I have given many hours thought to...and have come up with no real answers, either.
Same problem here but, it's getting better. My only thought is let's just treasure the time we do get with them. Life is so dang stressful nowadays it's ridiculous. Hang in there momma just make sure you always call them, let them know your thinking about them. Love Ya Girl, Callie
I don't know ... if you figure it out, tell me.
I think this is difficult especially for Moms, how are we so close and then we need to back off to, to, where? It's like the job for the rest of our lives is sitting and waiting for them to need us again.......YUCK!
As a 30 year old who lives 3 hours from her parents I can tell you that I miss my parents like crazy. I should probably call them right now to tell them, shouldn't I?
mm I have thought about this as well..mine one day is close as hell the next I don't know where she is...I'm sort of inlimbo
Hi Deb -
Definitely a tough one. I've recently had a lot of pain around it (as you know). Right now it's better, both with my son and my step-sons and I don't know why, either. I think it's all an exquisite dance and sometimes I have two left feet.
~Laura
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