Do you hang out your dirty laundry and talk about your family, your significant other, your career?
Do you hold back in talking about issues dealing with a family member in order to maintain their privacy?
Do you hold yourself back in expressing how passionately you feel about certain topics because it may offend your readers? What kind of topics do you steer clear from discussing?
For me - I don’t hang out my dirty laundry but sometimes I wish I could, there are issues that piss me off so bad that I want to tell the world about them, I could talk about the dysfunctional family I grew up in until I’m blue in the face.
I do my best not to bring my husband or grown children into my blogging and yes there are times when just doing so would keep my blog bustling with posts.
I do hold back in discussing my views, absolutely I do, but I wish I didn’t have to. I have very strong opinions about what is happening in the United States.
I’d love to talk about how I think children are not being parented, how there are too many deadbeats living off the government, how people expect to get something for nothing (or next to nothing), how we spend what we don’t have, how the politicians that we elect get into office and then do something different than what they promised when they were running for election, that crime is out of control and our judicial system doesn’t seem to care.........what bothers you?
Friday, December 19, 2008
Where Do You Draw The Line When You Post?
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The same things that bother you, bother me. We are made of the same cloth it seems.
This election found that I have fewer sites I visit in one respect and many others in another. It was nasty and one person I just flat told to go away and leave me alone.
I live in a pretty nice neighborhood and we are watching folks just up and move out...walking away from their homes. Why? Well, they got sucked into refinancing three and four times and taking that money and spending it on toys. Now those homes are worth what they should be worth and they owe 3, 4, or 5 times that much. There are very few of us that did that.
Another thing that bothers me...One side of the aisle spends a great deal of time running down President Bush. Say one thing about Nobama and you are uneducated or a racist. I got that a lot. It's the new way to try to shut us up.
Yes, I get steamed often. I don't think a darn thing will change come January 20th either.
Have a great day and weekend. :)
It really depends on how snarky I'm feeling. For the most part, I'm an open book and share all. I may leave out names to protect the innocent. Or I may avoid certain topics if I know a person involved might read it.
I will talk about my beliefs and views without hesitation because it's who I am. People can agree or disagree just don't get nasty.
I've had problems with people that read my blog, took offense, blew it out of proportion, and all that. But my feeling is that whatever I write online is something I would say to a person's face or have in fact told them personally.
The outrageous salaries professional athletes get compared to people with more important and necessary jobs such as . . . just about everybody else. Off the top of my head, sanitary engineers (what would we do without them), utility workers, teachers, postal employees.
I'm constantly battling with myself about how much to reveal about me and my families life.. It is extremely difficult to know where to draw the line.
It would be great to have a "bare all" blog but then once it's on the internet it's there for good!
I feel the same way sometimes about getting really pissed and writing about it. On those days I am like that, I stay away from blogging, at least I try my best. I don't think people would like the angry side of me at all, lol! Have an awesome weekend.
Jodi
I tend to just blog about whatever pops in my head. If I think it'll offend anyone, I either don't post it or put something in there that says I don't mean to offend anyone.
I keep a tight lip on family and significant other. many of them are in positions (of importance) and leadership, so i just can't. lots of people know who i am through them, so i need to be more careful of what i put out there. my blog is not theirs, so i shouldn't drag their laundry into my madness. i did it once very early on and i got it too. ;/
I feel fairly free to discuss my husband probably because he doesn't read my blogs, but I tend to avoid talking about my two grown children--who DO read them and are very sensitive! I scrupulously avoid discussing my political or religious views on either of my blogs but have no problem saying what I feel or believe in comments to others' posts.
The only things I don't discuss are things that my kids don't know about, which is pretty much very little. I'm open and honest. I don't hide my feelings on things because I figure my blog is MY place to vent, cry, praise, laugh, whatever. I don't ask anyone to agree with me and I try to be careful almost always not to offend except if i discuss that stupid witch that stalks me lol. I was as nice as i could force myself to be in that case, i'm over it now.
Beyond that, I agree mostly with you, ther are other things I could discuss like foreigners but it's hard to show appreciation for those who are good and helpful to the economy without putting down those that aren't. I really try not to hurt feelings regardless.
I pretty much blog about what pops in my head, I'm a 'shoot from the hip' kinda personality, so I pretty much tell it like it is. Without profanity. Or hurting someone's feelings. Or being offensive. I want to make sure my blog is fun to read from people in all walks of life.
I will blog about my hubby because he doesn't read my blogs, but I'm still 'careful' in that regard, because he knows I blog, and he can read it any time he wants. I want to make sure I don't hurt his feelings so I won't 'vent' if he bugs me, I'll simply not blog about it until it's at the point where we can both look back and laugh. ;)
I pretty much blog about what I want. There have been times that I have wanted to blog about my sister (who may or may not read my blog), just kind of humorous, snarky type stuff that I know could cause yet another rift between us. So I chose not to in my blog, but luckily someone else's blog brought up that topic and I was able to comment.
As far as family goes, I don't blog about any animosities, I blog about the cute, warm and whimsical things.
Politics, anything goes. However, sometimes I will draft a post in Word and let it simmer awhile, then edit before putting it up on my blog.
I too am a pretty open book. I don't talk about Hubby too much, but he makes it in once in a while. I do post about politics once in a while but like Sandy said, with some people you can not have an intelligent exchange of ideas. If you don't agree with them you are an idiot/racist/bigot/etc. I deal with too many fools IRL to put up with idiots on my blog, so I will avoid those topics mostly.
I am VERY opinionated but I tend to not talk about it on my blogs. I wish I had more time to start a new blog just to cover all of my opinions. The great thing about blogs is that you can always have more. I do like keeping them on one track though. I have one that is more "business", one that is more about our family, and one that is about all of our pets. I often think about having a blog for me to just rant about things. I think I would anger a lot of people though. I could go on all day about how many kids are diagnosed with ADD and ADHD instead of parents taking responsibility and raising their kids right.
Hi MamaFlo,
I wish you Yuletide Joy and A Blessed New Year together with your family.
Happy Holidays!
No one close to me knows that I blog--and would be surprised to find it out. Mine is a financial blog, and so far I have been scrupulously honest in reporting my financial ups and downs. I enjoy the anonymous posture that allows me to be as opinionated as I care to be. That said, I do find it disheartening that so many financial bloggers are so politically conservative and seem so intent on putting down the poor as though poverty is a character issue.
If you go back to 2007 on this blog or 2007 on my Wordpress blog you will see that I used to be opinionated but I got so sick of people yelling at me and calling me names and when I would ask them to leave or delete obscene comments, I was called a censor! I just got tired of the crap and have gone to more mundane things. I now have 4 blogs, but they aren't too personal or opinionated.
I try hard not to, but through blogging have made some very good friends and will often communicate through e-mail or phone about those things I don't feel as comfortable posting about on the world wide web :).
How's that cute little Rudy doing? Is he excited about Santa?
I see my blog as a place to talk about the things I want. I try to be a bit discreet (privacy issues) when I'm talking about certain things. For the most part, if something is bothering me and I want to write about I will. That what the blog is there for. Now if I have things that are too personal for me to reveal to the world (like most people), that is when I save that writing for offline.
I have been blogging for a long time. I try not to post too many pictures of the little ones because of the perverts out there.
I also don't post real names. The only one in my family who reads my blog is my husband aka Dr. Corny. The rest of my Entire family know nothing about blogging and for that matter computers or the internet.
I hold back on some things, like religion and politics. On other things I am very honest and just let it fly.
I don't blog so that people will like me. I don't blog to gain friendships although it is nice when it happens. I blog because I need a place to vent, to release, otherwise, I might just go completely insane.
I don't always have to agree with someone to like their blog. I enjoy reading all points of view. In my opinion, that is how we learn and grow. I love your blog by the way.
When I first started blogging, which was only in September, my original "plan" was to write about my views on various issues etc. It was intended as a journal of my own personal thoughts concerning my life, the people I'm involved with, the issues of the day, bitching about work etc - in other words, it was "writing for myself." But then I asked myself the question, "who out there really cares what I think" and so in many instances, what I write about tends to be writing for an audience rather than myself. There is only one of my friends and her husband that actually know I write a blog - and there have been times I've neglected to post something because I know they will read it.
Maybe in the new year, we should say "to hell with what people think or how they'll react - this is me - take it or leave it!"
As always, I enjoy reading your blogs and comments ... have a great Christmas and all the best for the New Year!
I really had no idea that people would call you names and stuff because you spoke your mind and your opinion was different from theirs - seriously? OMG, I'm shocked actually that people are so damn shallow and self centered, and egotistical, and ugly, and stupid, it's so hard to believe that people are mean to other people because their opinions are different.
This world has come to a very ugly place.
I avoid politics and religion.
I discuss my kids and husband as it pertains to parenting. I do not discuss the "dirty laundry" aspect of my life, only those issues that are relevant to my site.
Of course, I have a wonderful husband and wonderful kids, so there isn't much laundry to be aired. (tons to be washed, though)
I wrote a post, just for you. I didn't hold back.
I think along the same lines as you. I deal with the same issues, and every once in a while write a post about them. I do hold back, and try hard to keep a civil tongue. At times it is very hard.
I don't hang out the dirty laundry either, though I did make one post about times and a person long gone.
I usually avoid politics and religion for they are the things of dispute. But if we don't talk about them then how is it that we can hope for changes.
Your question is valid. Just exactly where do we draw the line?
I'm trying to stay away from politics and religion on my blog. If I do talk about friends or family, I do not name anybody except my hubby.
And yes, there are times when I could blow up and post how I really feel about some issues... But I did not do that yet ;o)
Have a wonderful Christmas! I'll be taking few days off from blogging...
I'm an open book on my blog concerning MY feelings, MY opinions and the state of MY mind. I mention my husband, because he is the one who has made my life liveable, enjoyable, and he is the only person on earth who would care about an old bitcher like me.
I am upset that we lived beneath our means all our lives, while others lived above their means. We did this solely so that our retirement would be comfortable.
Due to others living for the NOW, our present life has been turned inside out because we are picking up their tab. Their lifestyle didn't have to change, but ours took a beating. None of it due to OUR lives being lived irresponsibly.
I tend to stay away from politics and religion just because my blog isn't about those things, and I'm not interested in converting nor being converted. What I share about my personal life is on a case by case basis while keeping in mind that the entire world, future employers or associates included, can see what I've written on my blog. Even if I delete it someday. Still, I am honest about who I am, won't pretend to be something I'm not and will share about certain joyful or painful topics. Others? Completely off limits.
I get pissed off and rant and moan and whine and bitch and complain and carry on, but I tend not to do it as much publicly because it's not the side of me that I really want to share unless I'm really wound up for some reason. Then I might.
I also have ridiculously strong opinions about parenting issues, but who's going to take me seriously when I cannot have children? I avoid that topic about as much as politics and religion and for the same reasons.
I have definitely a strong restraint when it comes to post about my family. Not that I would have bad things to say. But I feel that they deserve the privacy.
Things that bother me, in particular about my country, I write about and complain.
There is also a certain restraint about my work in the last few years. Difficult work, bad things happening. Not on the job site but on the circumstances. I would like very much to talk about it. I can't because it would put my friends and colleagues who are still there in jeopardy. Not only there work but also their personal safety.
But, perhaps, one day, I can talk about it.
I tend to air my views more in comments on other blogs than in posts on my own.
I don't air out too much dirty laundry and when I do, I inject humor into it.
As for having an opinion, I say what's on my mind and if it offends someone, they'll get over it.
**Just wanted to let you know I enjoy your blog and am passing on an award to you. You may pick it up here:
http://lolasdiner.blogspot.com/2008/12/sharing-love.html
Hope you have a happy and safe holiday.
Have a very Merry Christmas honey. Big hug. :)
Wishing you and your family a Merry Xmas!!
Happy Healthy Holidays!!!
to you and your Family!!!
ish
Just dropping by for a second comment but this time to wish you all the best for a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
hope your christmas would be filled with love, cheers and good tidings. :D
merry christmas!!!
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Happy holidays to you and your loved ones and all the best in the new year!
hi - nice to meet you here! i'm always amazed how many people i get to know here on entrecard.
as a therapist, constant ponderings over what to say and not to say has become second nature. i'm very circumspect not to violate anyone's privacy/confidentiality/anonymity so i don't talk much about what happens in my practice.
i talk very little about my family. this kind of came naturally; when my first grandchild was born, i thought i'd want to blog about it quite a bit, and then realized that that part of my life is something i'd rather keep under wraps. i'm a little more open about this stuff on twitter.
other than that, i don't hold back on my opinions.
i wonder why you feel you should do that? you don't mention your last name, so we don't know who you are. are you worried about irate commentors, or about your family or friends getting into a squabble over something you write?
i fiond that almost every time i write something opinionated and i think, "oh darn, should i really have said that?" something good comes out of it. that kind of vulnerability usually pays off.
A little late at getting by...
Happy New Year!
It is funny that I came upon this post. I have decided to change my current URL to another just to rid myself of readers (neighbors, family, coaches...) for this very reason.
I want to be able to blog about what I choose without catching the heat from others. With my new blog location I am just settling in. I feel like a wild horse that has been pinned up and now is free.
Great feeling.
I try not to blog too much about my brother and sisters...I want to maintain our relationship so I keep them out of it. I blog a lot about issues I face in my job, but I have to be very careful in how I describe the situations so as not to violate my clients' confidentiality....sometimes I wish I could be very descriptive!
I guess that I'm in the minority here. I write about my dysfunctional family a lot. I didn't at first, but then I found that I have not a lot else to talk about. I just hope that they're never computer-savvy enough to find the blog and find out, especially my sister. I vent about her a lot, especially around the holidays when I'm forced to be under the same roof with her. Luckily, she's a dumb blonde in brunette clothing so the chances of her finding it unlikely, and my mom still doesn't know what a blog is, no matter how many times that I explain it to her.
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