Happy Mother's Day

To all women..........Happy Mother's Day! Even if you are without children you will still Mother someone at sometime in your life, and I thank you.
Today will be a gloriously busy one for me. I have finished dropping my EC's for the day, and need to get ready for a family luncheon and then my daughter and her boyfriend are taking us to dinner this evening......I told her good Mexican Food (plenty of places here in San Antonio for that) and a place that has really tasty Margaritas (thanks San Antonio for the ability to eat and drink and enjoy every bite and swallow). I got a beautiful email from my DIL the other day as she was afraid with my son's residency schedule that he wouldn't make contact and she wanted to express her feelings.
From my dear husband I got a new Coach handbag and it's beautiful (Coach bags are one of my weaknesses) although he gave me the bag yesterday because we don't give gifts for "holidays" and he could say he didn't give it to me for Mother's Day. What a Sweetie Pie, I think I'll keep him another 30 something years!!

Questions To Help You Get To Know Me Better

I borrowed this list of questions from my DIL's blog:



1. I've come to realize that my boobs:
are just there to annoy me

2. I've come to realize that when I drive:
I'm pissed off at everyone else that are driving

3. I've come to realize that, when I love someone:
I grow immeasurably when I take my love and share it

4. I've come to realize that I need:
I need to continue to grow and evolve

5. I've come to realize that I lost:
nothing when my children grew up and left home

6. I've come to realize that I hate it when:
people refuse to take responsibility for their actions/words

7. I've come to realize that if I'm drunk:
I'm not in control of myself

8. I've come to realize that money:
merely aids me to make life as perfect as I can make it

9. I've come to realize that people:
are afraid to get involved

10. I've come to realize that I'll always be:
unhappy with my upbringing

11. I've come to realize that I drink alot of:
Water (heehee, you thought I was going to say Margaritas didn't you)

12. I've come to realize that the last time I cried was:
watching the news tonight when they were talking about the courage of a Navy Seal

13. I've come to realize that my cell phone is:
an emergency necessity but otherwise a pain in my ass

14. I've come to realize that when I woke up this morning:
that I love sleeping until I wake up naturally (and didn't this morning)

15. I've come to realize that before I go to sleep at night:
to review my day, what I've learned, who I've met or spoken with, the beauty I saw, and feel blessed

16. I've come to realize that right now I am thinking about:
how incredible it is to be retired and have the time and inclination to do whatever I'd like to do

17. I've come to realize that babies:
are miraculous

18. I've come to realize that when I get on Myspace:
I don't use MySpace

19. I've come to realize that today I :
have put in place spending a great deal of money getting electrical work done and taking my vehicle in for repairs

20. I've come to realize that tonight I will:
do what I do every night, sit at the computer and half watch television

21. I've come to realize that tomorrow I will:
repeat today

22. I've come to realize that I really want to:
live a long life with my husband

What does it mean to be an IN-LAW?

Technically IN-LAW means "Relative by marriage", but what does it mean or should it mean?
As an IN-LAW, how do you want to be treated?
Do you treat your IN-LAWS differently than your blood family?

I'm asking this question because after 5 years of marriage, I still don't feel like my DIL and I are in a good place. I'm not the only family member to feel this way but I'll refer to myself (I) in this post because it's coming from me.
I am not saying that this feeling is entirely caused by her (what she says/does, etc), I'm certain that I'm also a contributor.
What I do know is that I want this to stop, it's creepy and uncomfortable, and the situation will only grow in intensity over the years. I always wanted my son's wife, my DIL to just be my daughter (as I will someday want from my daughter's husband).

As a MIL, I want to be treated like she would treat her own Mother. I don't want to be called by my first name, I grew up during a time when this would be considered disrespectful. I could never, not ever, consider calling my IN-LAWS by their first names. Even my husband's Aunts & Uncles, I call by their title of Aunt or Uncle. Is this old fashioned, do you call your IN-LAWS by their first names?

Because so many of you are young women (cough-cough), I'd love to hear what you have to say on the subject matter of IN-LAWS. I wouldn't mind hearing from the rest of my aging beauty buddies either.

I stole this quote off my DIL's site.......

A quote
"My mother said to me, 'If you become a soldier, you'll be a general; if you become a monk you'll end up as the pope.' Instead I became a painter and wound up as Picasso."
- Pablo Picasso